A breakup of a relationship is not just the end of that relationship, it also represents the loss of shared dreams and commitments making the process very painful. It’s never easy when a marriage or a significant relationship ends. Whatever be the reason for the split up… and whether you wanted it or not… the breakup of a relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. But there are plenty of things that you can do to get through this difficult time and move on. You can even learn from this experience and grow into a stronger, wiser person.
It’s well known that breakups cause extreme disappointment, anguish and provoke unadulterated negative emotions in the people experiencing it and it’s very common to get overwhelmed by emotions at that time, which may lead you to feel low and commit stupid acts that you wouldn’t do otherwise. However, it is imperative that you disregard the uncertainty in these times and keep faith in yourself and move on. It’s obviously not going to be easy nor is moving on a really quick procedure, however given time and patience it’s possible and the whole experience might end up making you a better person in the end.
Here are some of the things that you should keep in mind to help you move on after a breakup:
1. Face your grief
It is tempting to avoid grief, to ignore your feelings but repressing the anguish is just going to cause more pain. The repressed emotions will come to rule everything about you and it’s best to let those suppressed emotions out and free yourself from all the negativity.
2. Don’t blame yourself
It’s possible you might have been the one whose actions caused the breakup, however there is no need to beat yourself up about it. It takes two people to be in a relationship and if even one isn’t convinced about the relationship, there’s nothing you can do about it. Don’t be harsh on yourself and see your reactions as normal. Our brains and bodies are wired to have powerfully painful reactions to rejection and it’s completely normal to feel depressed.
3. Move forward
Do something new, keep yourself occupied, do things that you weren’t able to do before because of other commitments, try to revel in this new system life has thrown you into and find ways to keep yourself happy.
4. Listen to yourself
It’s you who has experienced the breakup and it’s you who should take your decisions and decide what is best for you and not your friends or family. Take their advice, but don’t get entirely influenced by it as only you know how you feel and you should listen to your needs first.
5. Work on the concept of self-love
You are a worthwhile person who doesn’t have to let the end of your love relationship define your self-worth. Keep in mind that no person can complete you, they can just be with you.
6. Cultivate supportive relationships
Being with people who accept and support you can help ease feeling of rejection. So surround yourself with good optimistic people who help you to move on. Get energized by the possibilities ahead for you.
Everyone knows how tough it is to move on from a relationship, but you need to accept the fact that it’s all over now and should realize that this too shall be surpassed. So keep in mind the above wordings and start focusing on your career.
Also check out our article on Motivating yourself to Hard work and Spending your time productively.
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